“You are not your behavior. You are not your past. If you’ve behaved stupidly, it does not make YOU stupid. If you’re focusing on the past, you’ll likely get more of what you’ve gotten.”
The future will not be like the past.
It’s easy to attribute our success or failure to external factors. The discovery of this useful formula left me wondering why it was not true all along.
This can be expressed as
E + R = O.
Most of the time, you feel helpless and victimised because the outcome of the incident is thought to be dependent on many things outside your control. By the time you understand how your actions will shape the final result, you’ll feel like you’ve got things under control. People mistakenly believe that the event itself determines the outcome; in reality, many factors — including some beyond your control — contribute to the event, and as a result, you are more likely to feel like a victim than a victor. Realizing that your response to an event ultimately determines the outcome can give you a sense of empowerment.
Example: Let’s say a kid has trouble with math. People start to categorise the kid and assume the worst for him or her. The child starts to believe it and eventually uses it as an excuse for why they are bad at math and ceases making any effort to improve their math skills.
There is no guarantee that what you say will be true in the future when you start making allusions to the past. Once the kid starts to accept it, though, it becomes untrue. When it occurs, miracles can occur. Our mental architecture prevents us from distinguishing between genuine and fabricated experiences.
You shouldn’t let your history define you. No, your future will not repeat the mistakes of your past unless you make them.
Previously popular students may find themselves out of favour today. College cricket players don’t always make the cut for the national or international squad. However, the kid actor rarely makes it to the big screen.
Conversely…
The nerd from high school ended up being #billgates . The rookie who sat on the sideline became a basketball legend, #michaeljordan . The abused and neglected child who rose from poverty to fame is now known as #oprahwinfrey .
If what has happened in the past is indicative of what will happen in the future, then your windshield serves no purpose, and you will be driving with your eyes fixed on the rearview mirror. Looking backward the entire time you drive is a recipe for disaster. Making mistakes and poor choices is something we’ve all done before. There is no separating us from the human race. However, we have the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and embark on a brighter future, beginning right now.
Don’t let others around you, whether they be loved ones or coworkers, bring you down with their negative expectations.
You are not that person.
You should look forward to your future success and learn from your past mistakes.
When I first started writing, I was terrified to show anything to anyone. As a student, I used to write a lot but was too afraid to show people. That’s what I used to think; I wonder how other people will react. But one day I decided to make this blog page to share the ideas and things I’d hidden inside me for a very long time, and you all won’t believe me, but ever since I did, I’ve felt amazing. Many things in my life have shifted.
All of us have done things in the past that we now deeply regret. But what’s the point if you’re going to be trapped there for the rest of your life, wasting what little time we have? Why shed tears for those who abandoned us to satisfy their own desires? Putting too much emphasis on the past is misguided. Living in the now is what really matters because that’s all any of us will ever really have.
Be successful in life by constantly reminding yourself of this slogan. A look back in time cannot predict a look forward in time. Nothing you’ve done in the past 16 years or 50 years of your life matters because of a single day, an hour, a moment, or a single failure you experienced yesterday, today, or any other day. What is important is the action you take at this very moment.
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Concept by : Hasini Lakshminarayanan
Writtern by : Pallavi Singh